No Pretense, No Deception

No one said life was easy. It is not meant to be effortless and tranquil. Lessons are learned somatically and independently. Simple or daunting, without us physically and emotionally go through them we might not ever feel the sense of triumph once we finally make it over our barriers in life. Notice the term ‘our’: our barriers are our own. There is no reason to drag other people into them. Please don’t mistake this for having someone to lean on through rough times or the occasionally venting. With that said there is no need to drag other people across our mountains that we ourselves need to climb over.

I have made my own excuses and I have heard the excuses of other people. But what is an excuse really? Justifications and rationalizations are only used to perjure you as an excuse. For example, say you’re getting ready for a test and once you take it you find that you have made a bad grade… Then you complain and make up excuses like, “the test was too hard” or “the teacher tried to trick us with the questions”. When in all reality you should have just studied more or taken responsibility for your lack of studying productively. It is painless to deposit the blame on someone else or something else that is out of your own control.

So, how come we like to place impugn on someone else other than ourselves? This could be for multiple reasons like the relocation of guilt. If it is not on ourselves we then feel more virtuous. This is only localized and provisional. Our stomachs twist up and our shoulders feel as if they were carrying countless amounts of weights on ourselves when we hold inside the truth. Maybe if we all started to accept our own accountabilities then we can progress ourselves into decent independent responsible human beings. I believe that we all know the right and wrong answers. Sometimes we chose the wrong answers because perhaps it is unexpected. Taking the wrong route is not necessarily the iniquitous move to play. We have choices and we can chose whichever option we have freely and without judgment. I only plead you to accept them as your own measures of choice and if or when it blows up in our faces only we are to blame.

I believe that we are our only devil. Only we can shape who we are and how we act. The lessons we learn in life are to guide us in the direction to the best of ourselves. So, it is okay to plummet, plunge and tremble. Only if we then pick ourselves back up and understand what made us fall in the first place. If we then learn from it instead of displacing the blame of our own tumble onto someone who is easy to blame. We are capable of falling before the climb and we are capable of drowning in our own defy. We can bend and not break, but when we do fracture, our opportunity is to recover quickly and make ourselves ready to take on our next barrier. So remember who took that fall, remember who displaced the blame. Remember the lessons attached to that descent, lie or circumstance. Sometimes we mess up, sometimes we make contrite decisions. But they can merely benefit us in the prospects of our lives if we let them. Perceiving responsibility does not mean to live your life in pretense. Only to interpret the choices and decisions as a lesson to be learned that can only improve us.